Spending less time on social media

Spending less time on social media

In my last blog post, I mentioned how I’ve been thinking about my relationship with social media lately. The constant news cycle, the bickering on Twitter, the comparisonitis that can come from constantly seeing other people sharing their best lives. It can be an exhausting place at times.

And yet – there are so many things that I love about it – not least the relationships I’ve built up online over the last who knows how many years. I also use it to promote my work, and I help authors use it to promote their books. It’s not something I want to quit and give up forever.

But I DO want to keep reflecting about how I use it. Towards the end of last year, I put in some pretty clear boundaries for myself about how I use my phone, but as the year has gone on, I’ve noticed myself slipping into bad habits again. A month or two ago, I started to feel unhappy again with the balance I had. For me, this looks like:

  • Checking my phone compulsively for new messages
  • Getting sucked in to looking at other people’s Instagram stories every time I check in
  • Which results in not being able to focus properly on the work I’m doing
  • In terms of my feelings, the thing I notice most is that when I spend a lot of time scrolling my phone, my self-doubt goes through the roof. Everyone just looks like they have they shit together, and even though I *know* that isn’t the case, spending my downtime on social media makes me feel like they do.

It’s not ideal.

I am all about creating marketing plans that work for people, but if my own plan isn’t working for me, then what?

Well, it’s time to change the plan.

I still want to spend time there. As I said before, I really enjoy the relationships I have built up over the years AND I still want to use it as part of my marketing plan. I don’t spend that much time there in terms of length of time online. I just check in way too frequently, and it distracts me from what I’m doing.

The tension between those things is something I’m still working on. I’ve found that something will work for a while, and then it becomes less effective and I need to re-evaluate. But this is what I’m doing right now that I’m finding helpful.

Think about why I’m getting sucked in so much

Apps like Instagram are designed to be addictive. So, that’s part of the reason why I’m spending so much time online for sure.

I also think, right now in particular (it’s currently the Easter holidays and schools were only open for 3 weeks of this year due to the pandemic), the lack of any other adult socialising is definitely making my phone appeal to me more.

I’ve been working from home, without any other adults, not really able to see anyone else, for months and months now. Of COURSE I’ve been using my phone more to connect, because human connection is a basic need. But the question I then needed to look at was – Am I getting that connection from the app?

Sometimes I am having meaningful or funny or interesting conversations in there. Sometimes I’m learning. Sometimes I’m just using it as a way to stop myself thinking about stuff. Thinking about why I’m opening my phone is helping me realise when I should find something else to do.

Make it harder to check my phone

My brain goes to my phone regularly. I wonder if I have a message? It thinks, and my hand automatically reaches out to check it.

Now I’m trying to interrupt that pattern. I wonder if I have a message? My brain thinks. Yes, I might have a message, but it can wait until I finish whatever I’m doing.

Easier said than done! Habits are hard to break. So, I’ve also put a physical barrier to interrupt that automatic response. That’s just a tiny thing – I put my phone under a book. But it’s an extra step that wasn’t there before that slows my response down enough for me to remember that I’m actually doing something else.

Set actual limits on it

In the settings of my phone (I have an Android, but iphones have a similar option), there is an area called ‘Digital wellbeing’. In those settings, I’ve now given my phone a bedtime and set a time limit on my Instagram usage.

At 9pm, my phone goes into black and white mode, and it’s quite astonishing how much less tempting it is to look at then. And Instagram now just shuts down (and doesn’t reopen) if I go over the time I’ve set. It has made me so much more aware of how much I’m using my phone.

Plan my content more

I’ve been thinking more intentionally about my content.

I set aside time to think about how I want to talk about my work, and then I put aside time each week to create that content. If I’m promoting something specific, I have a bank of ideas to pull from.

This has DRASTICALLY cut down on the amount of time I think about ‘what to share on social media’.

I’ve also decided that if I’m not promoting something specific, I do not need to be consistent.

The algorithm would love me to post every day (or at least a few times a week, which is what I have been doing) and maybe I would grow faster if I did, but… that’s not my priority right now. I want to focus on growing my marketing channels OFF of social media, so I would rather put my consistency effort there.

Listen to my own damn advice

I have not got this nailed. I give great advice to my clients and then don’t always follow it myself. So I’m trying to treat myself like a client (or at least, being a better boss to myself). Prioritise, focus on building marketing channels outside of social media (this blog, my newsletter), and remember that not everything needs to be replied to within a few minutes.

How are you feeling about your relationship with social media? I would love to hear how you are feeling about it right now.

If you’d like help planning your next launch or thinking up ways to market yourself, have a look at my workbook: 7 Steps to Create an Effective Online Content Plan.

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Spending less time on social media

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